Month: March 2005

  • Easter Weekend

    Thursday night – Hugh Laurie, the actor who plays the irascible Dr. House on Fox, made an appearance on Jay Leno’s show (since NBC produces “House”). So good!

    Entertainment Weekly – Star Wars preview. Whoa.

    EW reports that “House” is No. 4 in the ratings. “Joan of Arcadia” may be risking cancellation.

    EW also highlighted the new trailer for “The Hitchhiker’s Guide to the Galaxy” the movie – check out the official website. So cool! I was getting all excited about the upcoming Batman movie, but whoa – Hitchhiker’s Guide! The book was funny, but the movie’s looking good. (ok, I never watched the tv show or the heard the radio version, but the movie trailer seems to capture the book’s humor). Plus, Marvin the Chronically Depressed Robot has the voice of Alan Rickman. So funny… 🙂

    Umm, ok, maybe I ought to get a life. Oh well. Enjoy the weekend.

  • Flying to the Sun

    P and I on line at American to check in to the Tokyo flight. We’ll be in Nagoya on Sunday, and Taipei on Wednesday. My mom is ok; folks at the school are sending her flowers. We’ll see you on the other side.

  • Two Hands Heal One World

    My father was quite a private man, but he was quite a man of action. He never spent any time stating his philosophy, but he was convinced that with his two hands, he could heal any person, make any food, solve any problem.

    He was an international man. He was born in Seafordtown in the Caribbean island of Jamaica in 1939, and spent his youth in Falmouth, working in a grocery store and as a baker. His grandmother sent him to Hong Kong for high school, where his favorite thing was to tend the school’s pineapple fields.

    He worked for a few years in London as a Chinese cook before coming to New York, where he continued to cook. His sister was here studying at the Fashion Institute of Technology and my father loved Italian cooking and a good New York beef steak or three, so he decided that this was where he wanted to stay.

    He was so sure that by 1965, with the help of his friend Ann Nurse, an Italian cooking teacher who was the godmother of all of the Chinese in his apartment building, he had become a US citizen. His sister had become friends with a German couple, the Eichhorns, who ran a “mom and pop” orthopedics making shop in the Upper East Side of Manhattan. Hubert “Pop” Eichhorn agreed to take him on as an apprentice and it became his life’s work for the next 30 years.

    As an “orthodist” – an orthopedic technician — or a “braceman”, as they were called in those days, my father specialized in the Milwaukee (CTLSO) Brace, which is used to correct scoliosis, or severe curves of the spine. He studied orthopedics at the source, Marquette University School of Medicine in Wisconsin and at New York University School of Medicine. A Milwaukee Brace is much like a custom suit of armor, requiring plaster body models, shaping of leather, riveting of steel, sewing of linings, clanking on anvils, polishing and fitting. He was one of the very few in New York that could do it all from scratch.

    In 1982 he went out on his own, starting Al Orthopedics Supplies, where he helped to heal thousands of patients from around the world with his back and knee braces. He collaborated with Dr. Jacob Graham to invent two lower profile versions of the Milwaukee Brace which would be as effective, but not be visible when worn. At the Hospital for Joint Diseases, he taught medical students about how to diagnose scoliosis and how braces are used in its treatment. He was very proud of helping to set up the certification program for becoming an orthodist, and displayed the letters C.O. — Certified Orthodist – as a badge of honor. In this litigious age, the fact that he was never sued for his medical work should mean a lot.

    Meantime at home, my father was introduced to my mother, and married her in 1970. I arrived 11 months later, followed quickly by my brother, and followed much later by my sister. We maintained a blend of Chinese, Caribbean and American values in our household. We had a three family house where we lived on the second floor, his sister’s family lived on the first floor, and his grandmother and aunt lived in the basement apartment.

    He did everything he could to keep from us from worry. He never let us know how hard he had to work to make ends meet. He let us enjoy the simpler pleasures of life.

    My father loved food; he did all of the cooking. He never knew how to cook small – he would cook for 10 people even though we were only five. One night would be Jamaican curried beef, the next Hakka stuffed bitter melon, and stewed pork with preserved vegetables, and the next spaghetti and meat sauce. Of course, all of these would be served with steamed white rice, even with the spaghetti. His neighborhood friends were at the local bagel store, where I learnt more about Jewish appetizing foods than any Chinese person could know about. He was so impressed with the omelets that were served on a flight that he spent the next month perfecting his own version. He would bring German delicatessen home from his old boss – his personal New Year celebration would not be complete without little cocktail sausages and cheeses.

    We had a 2 storey peach tree in our back yard. Every fall he would climb the tree with an improvised tool made of a 2 by 4, the hook of a coat hanger and a canvas bag to harvest the ripe peaches. There would always be enough to hand out to family and friends.

    Every Christmas, he would go back to baking, making pound cakes to give to friends and family. He would hand make each batch, churning out upwards of 60 cakes out of a small kitchen oven.

    He would be quick to come up with a Chinese remedy for a flu, a cut, or a bruise. He would find the right combination from the collection he kept in his closet, and soothe it with his hands.

    Whatever his personal indignities he suffered during his long illness due to diabetes, he always tried to be a perfect Jamaican gentleman and a man of medicine, keeping his pain away as much as possible, joking with the doctors and nurses, and occasionally offering his professional opinion. He always offered what he had, often handing people the sugarless candies he liked to have had on hand, and allowed another generation of medical students to learn about what he liked to call his “textbook case”.

    Towards the end, my brother and I carried him up to the apartment because he couldn’t walk up the stairs. Even then, his hands and arms were still strong, and even afterwards he managed to try to massage our backs after the long haul.

    He was a man of few words, but he did believe in his hands, changing, cooking, healing, joining. Let us give our hands to him today.

  • Wednesday

    Apologies for being on hiatus of late; it’s a time for reflection, in regards to our friend FC and his family; and, in my real life, work and professional matters have preoccupied my mind. I could go into a rant about work, but I’ll spare you folks of that!

    At any rate, I keep watching the news and reading the news – and I could say stuff about the whole euthanasia matter of Terri Schiavo of Florida, but I’ll refrain. It’s heart-breaking; it touches family law, federalism, and government in our lives (or not) and so forth – and as a lawyer and human being, I just find the whole situation as quite an exercise of watching law get twisted and tossed and lives caught in the middle. The hypocrisy of politicians. The manipulation of the media. The judges who must feel emotionally tortured, but bound by law (for this is still a country of laws, even if certain right wingers in Congress did not seem to appreciate that)… Well, ok, let me refrain from talking politics. This news has all been quite… something.

    “Amazing Race” – ah, Rob and Amber – the people we love to hate. Personally, I wouldn’t have given up holding my breath until the plane left, so it was funny watching the other contestants look in shock that Rob and Amber get onto the plane at the very last second. They were much too confident that they evaded Rob and Amber.

    “American Idol” – an error in presenting the telephone numbers for voting the contestants made it so that they re-aired yesterday’s songs today. Hmm. I liked how the rock singers, Bo and Constantine, sung so well. And – even more amusing – Constantine sang the “I Think I Love You” song (made famous by David Cassidy of Partridge Family). I get a kick out of hearing that song in the Cheerios commercials, but Constantine did a cute spin of it (well, he is kind of cute as it is).

    The comic strip “Cathy” has taken quite a turn the last couple of months – Cathy, that perennial Single White Female Feminist/Career Woman, finally got married in February (marrying her longtime on-off boyfriend, Irving (who had his own bizarre mid-life crises over the years, forget Cathy)). I mean, their marriage was shocking enough. But – gadzooks – we finally learn Cathy and Irving’s last names!! “Cathy Andrews” and “Irving Hillman” in the 3/23/05 issue. Good grief, Charlie Brown. What will happen next?!

    NCAA basketball tournament continues – in one of my brackets, half of my Final Four are gone. But, so long as Illinois and Louisville are still in, the other half of my Final Four are still there. Hmm… So it goes…

  • A Moment

    Just wanted to take a moment to give my condolences, thoughts, and prayers to FC, P, and the C family.

  • The Day Before The Day Before

    Friday was the day that lasted the week. It included purchasing a burial plot for my parents, recovering the car from the movie people (they dumped it 9 blocks away with a $45 fine — boycott the movie version of RENT, folks), going to the funeral home.

    Saturday was spent finding where the Kings County Morgue is to release the body to the funeral home people as well as getting appropriate clothes.

    Sunday my bro came in. I bought Italian cross buns after receiving visions of baked goods, I kid you not.

    Monday was when all of the final arrangements were made. It took three hours. More Italian food. Emails went to everyone.

    Today was spent taking care of paperwork for my mom, and scraping up the cash for Thursday and Friday. Going to the airport to pick up my mom’s relatives.

    I’m OK mostly because P– has been propping me up. Every other hour the sadness wells up and I have to force it back down before it gushes out uncontrollably. I still have to work on the eulogy tonight.

  • Last Exit

    “Pop” — my father — died this morning. I got the call from my mother at about 3 am. P- drove me to the house, where half a dozen cops were present, including several Chinese cops and a Chinese sergeant, which I was surprised. Thankfully, he passed away peacefully in his sleep.

    Upon leaving, P-‘s car was towed because of a film shoot. 5 hours later after frantic calling to every city hotline, we discover it is 8 blocks away.

    Today I am going to make arrangements for the funeral. I have no idea how much this will cost, or whether it will be affordable, or even how it is to be done. But I have to do what I can to cherish his memory.

  • March Madness

    Tomorrow – yep, this is it. NCAA championship. Bracket time – watching the teams duke it out. Of course, Alma Mater is not in the tourney (and hasn’t in 30 years; plus, this season ended really poorly for the men’s basketball team, even if with the hope that Alma Mater will be better; it was a rebuilding year, I think; the women’s team had their own strange debacle). Let’s see who’s the Cinderella team this year. I got my brackets ready! (did not make the silly mistake of picking Stanford all the way this time).

    Oh, and yeah, Happy St. Patrick’s Day.

  • Chinatown facade

    Made a quick run to DC’s Chinatown during a break Tuesday. The traditional gate is very impressive – it’s at least 5 stories tall. However, there was a definite dearth of Chinese people around. There were about four blocks of quasi-Chinatown, but apparently someone told these people that everyone has to have Chinese on their signs whether they are actually Chinese or not. So the Irish pubs, the CVS, and the brick oven pizza all have Chinese signage. It’s nice but it’s kind of just trying too hard.